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YOU AREN'T WEARING ANY PANTS!

To make changes and prevent you and your partner from reverting back into old habits, you need to dress your mind every morning like your dress your body. You have to SET your mind before the world sets it for you. Declare your power over your mind to follow through on new behaviors. You must put on your pants!

A new "way of being" happens because you have practiced it. Changing your new "way of being" requires you to consciously practice the new habit to establish your new mental programing to eventually make this new habit unconscious like your previous behaviors were. However, it takes time.

If you want to be different, you have to start doing this differently, requiring you to change your focus. You have to change what you are doing right now if you want to modify aspects of your behavior or thought processes.

When you wake up in the morning, decide who you are striving to be today. Strive to be even just one degree better than who you were yesterd...

"I have the answer.

I don't know what the answer is.

So, I look to others to tell me the answer that they don't know that I know."

You have the GOLD inside of you and all you have to do is dig through the dirt a little bit in your mind to find it. 

You have seeds that will lead to fruitful harvests like an idea, song or answer if you will only learn to use what you already have to manifest what you've always wanted. 

It is all within you. 

Ask people their opinions and gather all the information that you can to be informed, and then rest. Set it all down and let it all settle and come back to you. Make the final choice from your core connection because you have intuition inside that is there to help you succeed, blossom and win. I hope you learn how to mind for GOLD, tap into your intuition and allow your soul to lead you exactly where you need to go, meet you over in Module #1 of the SHOVE IT Foundational Course to get started: www.shoveitacademy.com

Making changes as partners and leaders of the family home takes time to adjust and make the transition. 

Transitions can happen in two ways. 

The first way is when you are going from A --------- Z.

A is where you are, and Z is where you want to be.

For example, A: you and your partner have disagreements at supper time, and you want to change the timing and conversation. Z then would be your idealistic image for what you want to create. Perhaps a check-in time after the kids go to bed and a few other new habits to make dinner time easier for the both of you. 

The transition time then is right now. You are progressing from A to Z. 

The second way is AZ ------, and the transition time happens afterward, like when you bring the baby home or move into a new house. However, instant change still requires a transition of adjusting.

In either case, mastering transitions is vital. 

The main key point to chew on and digest is that you are going to mess up sometimes. You will keep going to...

SHOVE IT for LIFE!

The impact you have as a parent is greater than you know. My mom's response of "just love your life" was the most incredible response she could have ever said to us. We took it to heart and continue to say that as a family as a joke, yet it is something I've owned quite seriously.

I never used to love my life because I didn't know how to manage my anxiety, depression, and anguish, causing focus until I learned to SHOVE IT! I hope you will learn how to SHOVE IT so you may also learn how to love your life! www.shoveitacademy.com/foundational

SHOVE IT to the perfect YOU! SHOVE IT for the real YOU!

This week, what I would really like for you to try on is to be unapologetically you. Wear your PJs to noon on your day off, don't worry about having your house spotless before you extend an invite to someone you care about, and don't worry about any part of it!

Live freely. Focus more on spreading love than receiving compliments and impressing others. Be human - the whole you! SHOVE IT!!!

SHOVE IT for being human!

Every human is fighting their own internal battle. The things you stress over and think about are so common. I know you care what people think to some extent. I know you overthink what you say or didn't say, and I know you have anxiety over various things in your life. I know you wonder if you matter and if you will get what is yours in this lifetime.

I know for sure that you can't waste another minute without implementing the SHOVE IT mindset into your daily practice. It is time to get back on your path and start feeling like the real you.

Learning to be kind and gentle with yourself is the best gift that you can give yourself.

Take time this week to provide yourself with a heartfelt apology for all the ways you haven't shown up for yourself. Acknowledge all the ways you have hurt yourself with words, criticism, and belittlement. Reflect on all the nights you ruined because you felt like you had nothing to wear or nothing worth sharing with others. I want you to take time this week to love yourself well and forgive yourself for all the ways you've neglected your own needs. Begin again by learning to make it up to yourself. You're a big deal.

Don't forget that! 

"I never thought this would happen to me."

"I feel like I have failed." 

"We've damaged our kids."  

"My vulnerability is being used against me."

Welcome to the SHOVE IT for Divorce Course. 

You are likely bombarded with so much guilt, fear, information, opinions, concerns, questions, and pain. 

For many of you, it has been a few years before you were ready to come here. For others, you are in the middle of it. 

Wherever you are, there is a place for you here. 

It is natural to have resentments, anger, and sadness. I am sure you are rehashing so many moments and events, trying to gain understanding, justify actions, and trying to find some peace.

We have 6 life-changing pillars for you in the SHOVE IT for Divorce Course.

The 6 Pillars are

Pillar #1: True love

Pillar #2: Radical Acceptance

Pillar #3: Ultimatum 

Pillar #4: Timing

Pillar #5: Happy

Pillar #6: Serendipity 

You are in the right place if you want to heal your hand and your heart. I know someone has said to yo...

Pillar/Module #1 of the SHOVE IT for DIVORCE: TRUE LOVE snapshot

When I was in my twenties, one of my good friends, Nat, got married and divorced within a short period of time. She was devastated. So, as best friends would, I did as much as I could to best support her. I sent Nat silly messages to make her laugh, I brought her favorite snacks over to her house on a random Tuesday, and I did my best to comfort her in her time of need. I got creative. I listened, I answered her phone calls at any hour, I put Nat above anything else. 

Then, my 5-year my relationship ended a year later. Abruptly.

It was my turn to move to a new place, divvy up our belongings, and begin again. He broke my heart. I could barely see through my tears because I would cry so hard. I didn't have the energy to shower or even fix my hair, but I forced myself to get up still, keep all my commitments, and tend to all the things.

Where was Nat? Great question. 

This was when I realized. In every situation, we onl...

When we practice radical acceptance, it doesn't mean we like it. It means we allow ourselves to create harmony with it. 

We have the choice to struggle, and we have the choice to suffer, even when the pain inflicted on us is so great and the guilt is so heavy. 

What if I told you in the middle of chaos and challenge, you can always find peace? What if you knew in the middle of an anxiety attack you can calm yourself almost immediately? What if you had this tool to teach your kids?

It's all there for you in Pillar #2 of the SHOVE IT for Divorce Course. 

Here is a quick snapshot of a practice you will learn here: 

Step 1: State only the facts.

Step 2: Create your harmony statement or question

Step 2.5: SHOVE IT! Repeat harmony statement multiple times throughout your day.

Let yourself complete this season of your life. Make sure you've learned the lessons you needed, taken time to heal your spirit, and have opened your heart for the greatest love yet. 

You are meant to be. 

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