I feel excited but anxious, wondering if they’ll ever fully choose me.

Thrilled, even if it’s chaotic, intense or unpredictable

I obsess about every detail and need constant reassurance they’re into me.

I try to do everything to impress them and make them feel comfortable around me.

Confident and calm. I enjoy getting to know them naturally

I feel anxious and unsure, sometimes withdrawing to see if they chase me.

I feel both thrilled and nervous. Slightly obsessed; the drama keeps me hooked.

I panic, overthink every interaction, and chase for reassurance.

I give more, over-plan, and try to fix the situation to prevent losing them.

I respect their space, trust the connection, and stay calm and confident.

On edge...wondering if I’m enough or if they’ll leave.

Like I’m on an emotional rollercoaster: the highs feel amazing, the lows crash hard.

Overthinking constantly - analyzing texts, social media, and their actions. Thinking about them and whether I’m enough.

Overextended: giving too much, anticipating their needs, and ignoring my own.

I feel balanced, secure, and genuinely happy in the connection.

Love is something that almost works out for me. There’s always timing issues, mixed signals, or someone not fully choosing me, or I pull back right when it gets real.

Love is stressful, unpredictable, or unsafe. I need to protect myself, stay guarded, and never fully depend on anyone.

Love is something I have to prove, earn, or work for. If I don’t chase it, it disappears, but if someone chases me, I lose interest.

Love works when I show up fully, take care of everything, and give more than I receive. That’s when I feel needed.

Love flows naturally when I’m grounded, secure, and in my true identity. The right person meets me without force.

I get excited, then suddenly unsure. I want closeness, but I sabotage or drift.

I shut down, freeze, or retreat. It’s overwhelming to be seen too deeply.

If they pull away, I hyper-focus. If they lean in, I detach.

I start doing things for them — favors, emotional support, acts of service — instead of letting them close to me.

I stay steady. I can pace things, communicate, and stay open without losing myself.

I'm not enough and they won't fully choose me.

Things will get boring, calm, or too predictable.

I’ll lose them if I don’t chase, plan, or earn their attention.

I’m not enough unless I give everything or anticipate their every need.

I might lose myself or my boundaries in love.

Unsure. I keep thinking, ‘Am I enough for them?’

Excited yet somewhat emotionally drained from all the highs and lows, and worry about their perspective.

Obsessed and activated: planning, analyzing, and wanting to know about the next step.

Overcommitted. I performed. I over-planned or over-gave to impress them.

Calm, happy, and connected, enjoying the moment fully.

I struggle. I try to be easy-going, afraid of losing them.

Often blurry. I go along with intensity even if it’s uncomfortable.

I push for clarity constantly, every interaction is analyzed.

I rarely set limits. I give until I’m drained.

Boundaries are natural and clear. I respect myself and others equally.

I wait and hope they’ll come back, maybe I’ll finally be chosen.

I feel chaos in my body, it overwhelms me.

I question, and overthink every detail endlessly, usually in my head.

I overcompensate, planning or giving more to prevent losing them next time.

I reflect, process, and maintain self-respect without overreacting.

Accepts less than you deserve, On the edge of commitment.

Dramatic, rushed, unpredictable, intense.

Obsessive, overthinking, always chasing someone.

Kind and giving, but often exhausted or drained.

Balanced, secure, and confidently happy.

Unfamiliar. Almost skeptical. It feels risky or like I’m missing something.

Boring. I fear complacency. I crave intensity and unpredictability.

Unsatisfying unless I’m actively pursuing or chasing them. I like novelty.

Safe, but I feel like I need to give more to maintain it.

Exciting and safe. I enjoy it fully without overthinking.

Fear of being fully chosen or seen.

Craving intensity over calm, stable love.

Belief that love must be chased or earned.

Belief that love must be proven through giving and accommodating.

Maintaining alignment and confidence in myself while loving fully.

Assume it’s another case of “almost but not quite” and wait for the drop-off.

Detach instantly — “I knew it. This is why I don’t get attached.”

Try harder, read into everything, or obsess over the pattern.

Show up more, offer more, support more… hoping they come back around.

Notice the behavior, regulate, and choose someone whose consistency matches your standards.

Confused — you either feel “too much” or “not enough,” and end up misreading situations.

Needs = danger. You minimize, hide, or shut down.

You feel anxious, overthink, and try to solve or fix the feeling.

You handle their needs but avoid expressing your own.

You see needs as neutral information and communicate clearly.

People who are “nearly right” but emotionally half in/half out — or people who feel right until it gets serious.

People who are intense or chaotic — confirming your belief that love = stress.

Emotionally unavailable people… until they’re available. Then you lose interest.

People who love being cared for but rarely pour back into you.

People who are emotionally safe, stable, grounded, and available.